Feelings - The Good, The Bad, The Ugly
Have you ever noticed how your feelings affect your daily habits? I remember when I was about 14, someone pushed me into a swimming pool from behind. I did not know how to swim and I panicked, thrashing and taking in gulps of water. Little did I realize that I was only in 3 feet and just needed to stand up. When it was over, I was humiliated and from that moment, I engulfed a massive fear of bodies of water. Whenever I went to the beach or pool, I steered clear of any chance of that happening to me again. I would feel that fear creeping up on me. It started to impact my habit of being a relaxed, easy-going person. I became uptight and anxious whenever the thought of that incident danced through my mind or I came near a pool.
This is how feelings affect your daily habits. As another example, if you grew up in a home where your parents always argued, you may develop a fear of relationships. You may think it is perfectly normal for adults to constantly argue. It may be so ingrained in you that, when people tell you they never argue, you don't believe them, as it is not your experience. Your feelings become your reality and then impact your habits.
A habit is just a set of steps that you do repeatedly, so you can see how negative feelings and thoughts can affect this. Suppose a child grew up in a home where there were always money problems. After they grow up, they will be expecting that they will never have money. So they don't bother taking steps to counteract this. Instead of learning how to save or budget, they accept that they won't have money when they are older.
The point here is to not let your negative feelings affect your efforts into trying to make changes. First you have to understand what it is you want out of life. Do you want to own your first home? Do you want to have a happy marriage? Do you want to go to college? Do you want to learn how to dance?
Whatever your goal is write it down and then figure out the steps you need to achieve it. How much money you need for a down payment for a home, for example. Then start thinking good thoughts about your choice. Be positive that you will save enough for your down payment. That you will get accepted into the college of your choice, find the person of your dreams or be a first class ballroom dancer.
Tomorrow, I will share more tips on what to do once you write your goals down.
You can do it! I believe in you!
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P.S. Oh, forgot to mention above - I took swim lessons after 50 years of age and finally released that fear! That old habit is gone!